A Snack Tray Moment

My babies have grown up. They did not follow a traditional path. Instead followed a dream and a passion for music. They have traveled all over the country including Alaska, England and Scotland. A detour from completing college education was a disappointment for me. But I continued to acknowledge their incredible work ethic, integrity, persistence, and the passion. What I could not continue to say was that if you just keep working hard and follow your dream it will come true. That reality just does not exist in the brutal music business.

So you remain their number one fan and talk it through. And be there with a few bucks if needed, a care package, a home cooked meal, and conversations that reassure me that they have persevered and own the most important things that life gives: integrity, honesty, strong friendships, respect both given and received, and love. Did I mention that they are excellent boyfriends? I think Gina and Amber would agree.

So I’m reading this incredible Blog with ideas, recipes and tips about mealtime and remember with affection one of our favorite things: the snack tray. Summer lunch, after school treat, Saturday afternoons, Sundays after church. The Snack tray consisted of slices of apples, grapes, cheese cubes, hard salami, celery and dip, hard boiled eggs (or deviled if I was ambitious), crackers (wheat thins preferred), ham rolls with toothpicks (always a hit), and don’t forget the pickles. LOVE pickles!

Sometimes they would help create it, but more often I would bring it to where they were — the kitchen, family room or the picnic table outside. It was always greeted with delight and we would “pick” together. Of course this was dad’s favorite too, and many playtime friends also enjoyed it.

I’ll admit now that it served as dinner more often than it should have, but the feelings evoked were worth it. Yes, they are strong and healthy today and eat pretty much anything in front of them.

Soon, Ryan (my baby at 28) will leave for China on a new adventure with his love in a foreign land. Who said the worrying stops at 18? I already miss him. But a snack tray moment before he leaves and a snack tray memory will keep him close.

–Betsy Clancy, MA, LPC, Parenting Program Group Coordinator

3 Responses to “A Snack Tray Moment”

  1. 1 Anonymous July 6, 2011 at 8:51 am

    Great post Betsy! I love the memories and advice!

    Mary Anne

  2. 2 Anonymous July 6, 2011 at 11:41 am

    Love this article, Betsy! It is all about real life parenting…straight from the heart. Deanna

  3. 3 Jean Lakin July 6, 2011 at 12:47 pm

    Ah, good to know that I am not the only one dealing with the ups and downs of adult children. We love and and support them and most of all continue to learn to treat them as adults. Along with that comes all of those wonderful childhood memories. We are all blessed.

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