Hi. My name is Rebecca. My birth story isn’t typical, but it’s not all that unusual, either.
You see, I was “expecting” for about 18 months. We began the adoption process in June 2010 (holy paperwork, Batman!) and became the very proud parents of twins in December 2011. We had three weeks’ notice to prepare for two babies.
We met our birthmom and her case worker at a local mall play area. She had a notebook full of questions, which we were happy to answer. Her decision to make an adoption plan was confident, thoughtful and considerate, which made our adoption process move along like a dream.
A week after we met her, she invited us to her home just three miles away from ours to get to know each other better. We met her son, our kids’ half-brother, and learned her history. She was completely wonderful.
It was just a little more than a week after that when we received a call from her. This wasn’t like her, since she always preferred communicating through our adoption agency. She said that all day she wasn’t feeling well and decided to go to the emergency room, just to make sure everything was alright. Good thing she did because those babies wanted out!
In a panicked hustle we sped to the hospital and 97 minutes later we were parents to a 4-pound, 10 ounce girl and a 5-pound, 1-ounce boy. They were six weeks premature.
Our daughter was the first baby born. She was head down, so her brother was sitting on her head for 34 weeks. When the doctor showed her to us for the first time, we had no idea what to think except maybe “Igor” would be a more fitting name than the one we had chosen.
Then out came our boy. I was a little worried at first, but his head was perfect. I’m happy to say that my daughter now has a normal shaped head and big, blue eyes—a real heart-breaker.
Was your child born with a funny-shaped head? Did you see your baby for the first time and think, “Hmmm”?
Being the adoptive parent of multiples is a challenging experience, but it also brings unimaginable joy. I’m happy to share that with you all.
—Rebecca Calappi, Publications Coordinator at Beaumont Health System and adoptive parent of multiples